Future Me Visualization

This is another exercise I learned from Mark Divine.  The “Future Self” exercise is a visualization practice to help you see yourself as you would like to be.  As the saying goes, “If your mind can conceive it, and your heart can believe it, then you can achieve it.”

This visualization can also be thought of as creating or altering your identity. Of course, this exercise assumes that you want to change, evolve, or be a better version of yourself. In the book “Atomic Habits”, James Clear discusses the importance of identity and how it relates to creating new habits or breaking old ones. He says there are three layers of behavior change.

1. The first layer is changing your outcomes.
2. The second layer is changing your process.
3. The third and deepest level is changing your identity.

In the book, he says the problem is not that one layer is more important than the other but rather the direction of change. Many people begin by focusing on what they want to achieve. An alternative approach is to focus on who you want to become.

In his book, “I Forgot to Die”,  Khalil Rafati, has a transformative moment when his sponsor finally asks him a simple question, “Who would you be without your story?” Khalil was a recovering drug addict who had come from an abusive home, dropped out of high school, and now at nearly 40 years of age was challenged by his sponsor to let go of the past and focus on the future. Kahlil is now owner of Malibu BeachYoga and Sunlife Organics a popular juice and smoothie bar with over 10 locations throughout California which making millions of dollars a year.

The “Future Self” visualization is designed to help you become your best optimized self.

Start this exercise by finding a quiet place to sit and meditate.  Then begin by box breathing taking deep breaths in the following manner.  Breathe in for five seconds, hold five seconds, exhale for five seconds, hold for five and repeat.  While doing this method of deep breathing begin to visualize yourself as if you are the person you want to be.  How do you feel?  How do you look?  How do you act?  Continue to visualize yourself as this person until it becomes very real to you.

Once you have created your future self, begin to act “as if” you are that person.  If you, at anytime, are having difficulty seeing yourself as being successful, you can come back to this exercise to recreate your “future self” again and again.  The more you practice the more real it will become and the greater your chance of turning your goal into reality.

This exercise is one that is great to start the new year. It works best if integrated with the other exercises that are part of the spiritual challenge such as eliminating the negative stories and beliefs (BOO), positively believing you can achieve it (What Wolf Are You Feeding), and of course, massive action.

BOO (Background of Obviousness)

I want to introduce a very powerful exercise that Mark Divine refers to as BOO. I have mentioned this exercise many times in the past and you may recall that BOO is an acronym for background of obviousness. In general, the exercise is a deep introspection of our beliefs. The way I am presenting it can be done in four steps over the period of a week.

Step 1: Find a quiet place where you can think without interruption.  Begin by doing some box breathing for five minutes as you set the intention of examining your beliefs without judging the beliefs as good or bad. You are simply taking inventory of what is. You can do this exercise by examining your broad beliefs about yourself and life in general or you can pick a specific area or goal and focus on your beliefs about that. You can take one to two days to perform this exercise.
Step 2: After you have your list of beliefs, go back after a day or two and revisit the list. As you examine the list identify which of these beliefs is empowering and which of these beliefs is disempowering.
Step 3:  Of those beliefs you have identified as disempowering take a look at them and examine to see if they are actually true. What you may find is that you have been operating on beliefs that are not only disempowering you but are actually not even a true. For instance, we may have been told we are a certain way by someone who we held as an authority at some point in our life that upon looking back was totally false. We could have been told that we were fat, ugly, stupid, unathletic, etc. when we 10 years old by a 12 year old.  If we bought in it to that and it became part of your identity,  you have been operating under the authority of a 12 year old. You assumed it was true but now looking back you realize that belief was planted there not by someone who new the truth but simply by a 12 year old kid. This is known as operating under a Background Of Obviousness.
Step 4: Once we have examined our background of obviousness we can either eliminate those disempowering and untrue beliefs are we can alter them to be more empowering. For instance, when being coached in this exercise in the past I identified one of my beliefs as “Hard work pays off”. I admittedly was taken back when my coach suggested I alter that belief which I thought had served me well. She suggested maybe I reframe that belief as “Smart hard work pays off”. That was and AHA moment for me.

I hope you have some AHA moments doing this exercise as well.

OPTIMIZATION CHECKLIST 2019

OPTIMIZATION CHECKLIST 2019

This “Optimization Checklist 2019”  is quite simply, a basic checklist of some of the things you can do to optimize your training in the gym and life outside the gym. This list is not all encompassing of everything you could do, but is a list of things I believe to be most useful and things I have tried myself. It is my perspective on optimization and it will and should continue to evolve over time. It is my belief that one of the cornerstones of living an optimized life is to be a life long learner. It is also my belief that each of us has a calling and a purpose and that we should strive to be our best.

I decided to put together this list for several reasons.

  1. It is a checklist for me to personally utilize to stay in touch with the areas of my life that I believe are important for my own optimization.
  2. It is a checklist I am using with my Optimization clients to help them be their best selves.
  3. It is a list that several clients have asked me to put together so they can actually see some of the things I focus on personally.

The goal of sharing this list is that you may find something helpful to apply to your own life.  What it is not intended to do is make you feel inadequate or guilty if you are not doing everything on the checklist. Ultimately, you will have your on list. This list is to give you ideas of things that you may not have considered.

There are many areas we can focus on but I have narrowed it down to five critical areas.

  1. Mental
  2. Physical
  3. Nutrition
  4. Sleep
  5. Spiritual

Mental

All of the areas above are critical for optimization in our lives . To fully optimize we need to integrate all five of these areas. However, I would agree with Bobby Maximus in saying “The Mind is Primary” and also with Mark Divine in his  “Unbeatable Mind” program where his first lesson is titled “Win First In The Mind Before Stepping Onto The Battlefield”.

Here are some areas where you can focus your attention.

1. Goal Setting

2. Morning Ritual

3. Evening Ritual

4. Mental Exercises:

a .BOO (Background of Obviousness)

b. What Wolf Are You Feeding? (positivity)

c. News Blackout (removing negativity)

d. Future Self (creating your identity as you want to be)

f.  Habit Inventory (taking inventory of your current habits as outlined in “Atomic Habits”)

5. Growth mindset (be a life long learner always striving to gain knowledge)

All of these things I have either written about before, will be writing about in the future, or will be having workshops on this year.

Physical 

Coaching physical training is what I have spent most of my day doing for the last 30 years. I have no idea how many training sessions I have overseen over that time. However, when I only did one on one training where the sessions lasted 30 minutes and I averaged at least 80 sessions a week for over 10 years I would have done somewhere in the neighborhood of 32,000 sessions in that time alone. When I meet with new clients to discuss their goals it almost always revolves around something physical. Of course that makes sense since our classes revolve around physical training. What I hope to convey is that our training is much more than just a workout to break a sweat and burn a few calories. What I am most passionate about and get extremely excited about is people who transform, as a result of our training, not only physically but mentally and spiritually as well.

The full benefit of our physical training program is gained when you integrate the mind, body, and spirit. It has many benefits but I’ll break it down to a few major benefits as I see it.

Health 

I still remember one of my Health Science professors at Clemson say, “We can’t always assume people value their health”. I remember thinking, “What?” A few years later I remember being at Duke when my Dad was going through cancer treatment and seeing people outside the hospital with IV’s in their arms smoking cigarettes.  Well, I realized then she was right and I was pissed. Now I know not everyone values their health or at least not until they lose it. If you do value your health then exercise is a critical part of being healthy. Greg Glassman the founder of Crossfit in his article called “What is Fitness” gave an interesting perspective on sickness, wellness, and fitness. Some people say that there is not a direct correlation to health and fitness. That is you don’t necessarily become more healthy as you become more fit. His perspective was that those people are looking at health as simply the absence of disease. He presented the idea of sickness to fitness was on a continuum and that as you become more fit you do become more healthy.

Functional Fitness

The term functional fitness originated from the field of physical therapy. It was used to describe training focused on getting patients back to their normal daily activities. Functional training later became an integral component of and another way to describe training for athletic development. The premise of this method of training is that not all training is necessarily equal regarding its transference of abilities or skills outside of the gym.  In this sense, functional training is meant to transfer to develop a better athlete, especially, as it relates to their sport. I personally believe that functional training leading to functional fitness is important. However, I also believe some people have taken it too far. There are many different methods and philosophies of training. Among some, the debate on which of these methods or philosophies is best can be very heated. Bodybuilding, including movements designed to isolate muscles are often frowned upon by those who espouse the benefits of functional fitness. Machine training is another method of training that is typically thought of by many to be less functional. I made a decision several years ago to move towards what I considered more functional training. At the time, I relied heavily on machine training as a tool to deliver our particular brand of high intensity training. We got good results from this type of training in terms of getting people stronger, leaner, and better conditioned. For those interested in added muscle, we were able to do that as well. Back in my days of bodybuilding I relied heavily on machines as well. One reason I moved away from machines was that I thought the training wasn’t as functional as it could be. For instance, I remember thinking,”What good was it for someone to be able to lift a lot of weight on a leg press or chest press if they couldn’t even squat properly or do a pushup.” What I now know is that you can use a combination of exercises and tools to help people become more functional human beings and athletes. If someone says you are not doing functional training because you don’t do olympic lifts or that if you do curls and machine training you aren’t training functionally, I would wholeheartedly disagree. I consider anything that helps you outside the gym in your daily life or in you sport to be functional training. You could also consider part of my definition of functional fitness to include improving movement capacity. In our FITFLO system of training I list movement as the number one priority. This starts with the basic movements such as squat, hinge, push, and pull. Our program is designed to help you learn to develop these patterns of movement properly by developing a healthy range of motion and engaging the correct muscles in the proper sequence. Beyond that, we want to introduce you to many other movements to help you improve your movement capacity, neuroplasticiy, mobility, and ultimately your freedom to move.

Strength Training

When it comes to functional fitness I believe strength should be a cornerstone. It has been and will continue to be an integral component of our training. If you have good movement and are free to move then adding strength to that movement will improve functionality in whatever you do. In our FITFLO system we have several different methods we utilize to build strength. The more conventional proven method of building strength is our Plan Strong method. We also have our more innovative methods of strength training which include our Master Strength, strongman, and bodyweight methods. It is our goal to help you find the method that not only resonates with you but is the best method to help you optimize your strength.

Metabolic Conditiioning:

To quote from Greg Glassman’s article called “What is Fitness”, there are three metabolic pathways that provide the energy for all human action. These “metabolic engines” are known as the phosphagen pathway, the glycolytic pathway, and the oxidative pathway.

The first, the phosphagen, dominates the highest-powered activities, those that last less than about ten seconds. The second pathway, the glycolytic, dominates moderate-powered activities, those that last up to several minutes. The third pathway, the oxidative, dominates low-powered activities, those that last in excess of several minutes. Here’s an excellent reference for additional information: http://predator.pnb.uconn.edu/beta/virtualtemp/muscle/exercise-folder/ muscle.html

Our goal in our training is to develop all three of these pathways. We do this primarily through engaging in high intensity interval training and circuits. I believe there is more bang for your buck in regards to the benefit of such training especially when it comes to the time required for such training. That is not to say that lower intensity exercise is not beneficial or that it should be avoided. It is just that going for a 30-60 minute low intensity walk, run, bike,etc, can be done on your own and is not the best use of time in a group training session.

Recommended training frequency for optimization

Strength Training: 1-2 days per week

Metabolic Conditioning: 2-6 days per week

Movement work: everyday

Nutrition

Ultimately finding a way of eating and supplementing that gives your body the fuel it needs to become the person you want to be is the goal of optimal nutrition. You have to be willing to experiment to see what works best for you physiologically and psychologically. Our goal is to give you some systems to apply to help you in this quest. Here are four sample approaches to assist you.

  1. Follow general guidelines focused on food quality. In other words, you don’t count calories or macros. You simply focus on eating whole nutritious foods. This includes meat (grass fed beef, fish, poultry) ,vegetables (preferably non starchy), fruits (preferably lower glycemic) and fats (grass fed butter, coconut, nuts, seeds). Avoid processed foods, vegetable oils, sugar, alcohol, grains, legumes.
  2. If you need more direction in terms of not only what foods to eat but more detail in terms of the amounts, then we have a second approach. We recommend following any of Mark Sisson’s Primal Eating Plans. Individual coaching is available to help you implement and integrate these plans into your lifestyle.
  3. Another approach and the system I consider the gold standard in regards to lasting change is our 12 month ProCoach program. As a participant in this program you receive daily lessons, as well as, monthly coaching, troubleshooting and accountability sessions.
  4. Yet another approach which you can use in conjunction with our coaching is nutrition testing. This testing can come in several forms. This can include genetic test to help determine what foods and type of diet may work best for you. It also can include nutrient testing and other blood work to help determine which nutrients you may be deficient in, as well as, looking at hormone levels and other biomarkers of health.

Sleep/Recovery

In my experience, lack of sleep is one of the biggest yet most overlooked components of living an optimized life. I believe this is especially true for hard driving and successful people. The attitude around sleep may be changing but for people around my age it seems that we were taught somewhere along the way that getting more sleep just meant we were lazy. There is the possibility of sleeping too much but I would say that most of us don’t get the amount or quality of sleep we need to truly be at our best.

The general recommendation for sleep is 7-9 hours per night. It is not just about the time in bed or even the time sleeping but about the quality of sleep as well. If you are not sure about your quality of sleep two of the best tracking devices on the market are the Oura ring and the WHOOP. I have used them both and have found the information gleaned from them eye opening. It has motivated me to focus more on my sleep and it has definitely made a difference in how I feel and perform. These devices not only track sleep but Heart Rate Variabilty (HRV) as well.

I would rate sleep as the number one in regards to recovery but here are a few other tools that can be beneficial that I use on a regular basis.

  1. Mobility Work ( yoga, stretching, corrective movements)
  2. Cold water immersion (ice bath or cold shower)
  3. Sauna
  4. Body Tempering

SPIRITUALITY

I mentioned sleep as being one of the most overlooked things regarding life optimization but Spirituality may be the most overlooked or under appreciated. Spirituality can take on many different meanings to different people but my goal here is to give you my simple interpretation of what it means to me.

First, I believe spirituality and religion are two separate things. I do believe you can be both religious and spiritual. However, I also believe you can be religious without being spiritual and you can be spiritual without being religious.

I personally believe in a higher power and to me spirituality encompasses some level of connection to that higher power. I choose to believe we all have a purpose and one of the critical things for optimization, which includes, finding happiness is finding that purpose. I have often talked about finding your “WHY” as it pertains to your personal goals. I usually talk of this in the mental aspect of our training. Here I am talking on a much bigger scale. Finding connection to your purpose and to others is a huge aspect to spirituality in my opinion.

I have mentioned that all the five critical areas need to be integrated and when it comes to the mind and spirit I sometimes have difficulty separating them. So, there will be carry over among all the areas but certainly the mental and spiritual.

How can you work on your spirituality?

Again I can only give you my perspective but here are some of the ways I work on it.

  1. Sitting in silence, either meditating, or box breathing.
  2. Gratitude practice(focusing on what I am thankful for)
  3. Hard physical training. I have to admit some of the times I have felt closest to God were during hard physical training. I still remember my experience during Kokoro climbing a mountain during a 20 mile ruck and wondering if I was going to make the time deadline. I simply had a mantra/prayer all the way up. When I was later asked by one of the coaches where my spiritual awakening occurred I had no trouble answering, “On that mountain”.
  4. It is still one of my greatest thrills in coaching seeing someone overcome obstacles they previously thought they were incapable of and knowing it is not about the physical or even mental but simply their spirit driving them.

Another exercise that can help you work on positivity and can be incorporated into your spiritual work is one that I learned from the Human Potential Institute. Dr. Mark Atkinson refers to this exercise as looking at below ground indicators. You can view the entire exercise here: https://s3.amazonaws.com/thinkific-import/2606/Belowthelineindicators-1516095925081.pdf.

What does my daily/weekly/monthly schedule look like for in regards to optimization.

Morning ritual:

Bulletproof coffee (2 scoops chocolate collagen, 1tbs Brain Octane, grass fed butter, coffee)

Listen to Brian Johnson’s Optimize+1,

5:00 box breathing in the morning preferably or later in the day,

Gratitude practice (write down three or more things I am thankful for)

Physical Training:

Strength Training Specific work:

1-3 days per week

Metabolic Conditioning:

3-4 days per week

Jiujitsu Training:

3 Days per week

Movement and Mobility Work:

(Stretching, Body Tempering, Corrective exercise, movement practice, or yoga) Everyday

Sleep:

I try for at least 7 hours per night. I prefer to get 8. I try to get a nap in the afternoon if I don’t get as much sleep at night.

We starting using black out curtains in our bedroom which have been very helpful. We also got a new mattress this year which I believed helped with my sleep.

Other things I have experimented with to improve sleep:

Supplements: Dr. Kirk Parlsley’s Sleep Remedy, Curcumin, CBD Oil,

Other devices: Oura ring or WHOOP for tracking sleep and recovery, Circadia

Nutrition:

At the beginning of 2018 I experimented with Mark Sisson’s 21 day Keto Reset plan and continued following a Primal Eating plan for the majority of the year. I wanted to compete at 175 for BJJ competition last year. This required a weight loss of about 10 pounds. I was able to do so while maintaining my energy to train. I also, finished my Precision Nutrition certification in 2018 and incorporated the principles from our Pro Coach program into my lifestyle.

I also, did nutritional testing with Dr. Koniver to help determine where I was nutritionally deficient.

Supplements:

Ones that I take daily: fish oil 10-12 grams, vitamin d, CoQ10, Kion Flex, Brain Octane, amino acids

Twice monthly: Vitamin IV

Once Monthly: NAD+ IV

Other supplements  I have tried: Organify, ketones, Biotropic, Qualia

I am sure there are others I have tried this year but I can’t remember all of them at this time.

Other recovery tools: sauna and ice bath or cold shower. I plan to use these on a more consistent basis (daily) in 2019.

Mental:

Optimize+1 daily

“News blackout” avoid listening, watching, or reading news when possible

Listening to or reading something positive or educational daily

Restarting Unbeatable Mind program in 2019

Finishing Unbreakable Lessons in 2019

Educational courses in 2018: Precision Nutrition certification, Primal Health Coach certification, Clubbell Strength seminar, Flow Fit and Tacfit seminar and workshops, Plan Strong seminar

Spiritual:

Box breathing daily, meditation, prayer

2019 The Best You Ever!

Our big picture vision for this year and moving forward is to help you be your best! This past weekend we had a workshop on this very subject. We viewed Brain Johnson’s Master class looking at ten big ideas on this very subject. For those who were able to attend this will be a recap.For those who were not able to be there here is a brief summary of those big ideas.

1.  Operationalizing Virtue
This is something I am really focused on this year. This goes for both helping myself as well as helping others.  It is great to have goals but you need systems, a process, and action to see those goals to fruition. It is also great to accumulate knowledge but application of that knowledge is what will empower you to be your best. As Brian says, “Less Chit Chat More Arete”.
2. Eudaimonic Identity = Optimus You
There are many different exercises you can utilize to help with this idea. As Tony Robbins says, we are all motivated by one of two things. We move towards pleasure and away from pain. An exercise that can help you move towards pleasure is  the “Future Self” visualization. This is an exercise we recently challenged you to try during our “Spiritual Challenge” back in December. It is a great exercise to help create the vision of what your best self looks and feels like.  For motivation from the pain side of things Brian says take a visit to Hell. It goes something like this. You are nearing the very end of your life and as you are taking your last breaths in walks the person you could have been. The gap between who you are and who you could have been some people call Hell. You can’t do anything about the past but you can certainly control your future by what you do from here forward.
3. The Big Three
Energy
Work
Love
4. Energy
Without your health you have nothing. You have to have energy to pursue your goals and to show up and do your best everyday. How you stay healthy and create energy revolves around three fundamentals. You need to move, eat well, and sleep/rest. This is our speciality. We have systems to help you in each of these areas and are here to support you on your journey to greater health, fitness, and energy.
5. Work
What unique skills and abilities do you posses. Can you find the link between your passion, purpose and principles.
6. Love 
Who can you support, serve, and love.
7. 100,000X + 1 Quadrillion
The little habits you create each day help you compound your improvement over time. Creating a system or algorithim to move you towards your goals and being your best self is key. Just getting a little better each day will lead to an incredible transformation over time. Kaizen is the Japanese word that represents this idea.
8. Masterpiece Days
What does you Masterpiece day look like. Picture that day in your mind and write it down. What are the big most important things you can incorporate each day to help in your big three.
9. Decisions and Disciplines
We are constantly making decisions that either move us toward who we want to be or not. Our life is an accumulation of all of those decisions both big and small. There are three types of decisions. There are reactive, structured, and expansive.
10. To Dare or Not to Dare
When you reflect on some of your greatest accomplishments you may find that they occurred just on the other side of fear. Vice versa there may have been some times when fear stopped you from trying something and as a result you don’t know what could have been. Be not afraid!

Optimization, Beliefs, and Atomic Habits

The mission at Alliance is to help you Optimize your training in the gym, as well as, your life outside the gym. My passion for optimization is at an all time high. My excitement is fueled by the fact that, with all the current knowledge, tools, and resources we have available, human potential is nearly unlimited.  The Alliance programs are designed for both optimization in specific areas,as well as, overall optimization. It is up to you to decide what you value and which areas of your life you choose to pursue optimization.

Here are what we focus on specifically through our core Alliance training programs.
1.
FITFLO– Health and functional fitness
2, Parisi Speed School– Speed, power, agility and athletic attribute development
3. Brazilian Jiujitsu– the art of Jiujitsu for self defense and sport

These are the specific areas we are aiming to help you optimize. There are numerous other benefits associated with the work done in each of these specific areas. Each program lends itself to be a program for self development which can carry over into other areas of your life. The lessons you learn and the confidence you gain can sometimes be a greater benefit than the original stated purpose for training. For example, you may start a program because you needed to lose weight either due to health concerns are the fact you want to look and feel better  However, you may eventually find that the increased energy, confidence, and comraderie associated with training are a  greater benefit than the weight loss. As stated in the book, “Zen in the Art of Archery”, the author says that the art is not undertaken for the mere sake of learning the art but as a portal to enlightenment.

Regardless of the area you would like to optimize, I have found beliefs and habits to be integral in the process. Let us first look at beliefs.What I have witnessed in 30 years of coaching is that one of the biggest obstacles stopping people from reaching their goals is the true belief in themselves that they can achieve that goal. To take this a step further some people will not even set a goal or commit to optimization due to the fact that they believe they may fail. in many cases this is not even a conscious decision. Through self reflection we can uncover some of these limiting and often unconscious beliefs. One exercise I have mentioned previously is to simply take some quiet time to reflect and write down all the beliefs that come to mind about any particular area of your life. Don’t make any judgement on these beliefs just simply record them as they come to mind. You can do this over several days just spending a few minutes each day being introspective. Take a couple of days off and then go back and examine each of those beliefs more closely to determine if they are empowering beliefs or disempowering ones. Then of those disempowering ones examine where those beliefs originated and if they are actually true. The second exercise is the is the “Future Self” exercise. If you want to change, you need to visualize yourself as the person you wish to be. If you cannot see yourself in that light then the change will difficult.

Having belief and seeing yourself as the person you want to be are a step in the the right direction but are not enough for optimization. You also need to take action. Again to use the simple but not easy example of weight loss. You may believe your can lose weight and you may see yourself as a leaner version of yourself but you need to change your behavior if you want to be successful. You need to have a plan or a system and take action i order to effect this change.

If you really break it down, we are for the most part where we are in area of our life as a result of the decisions and actions we repeatedly make. Another way of thinking of this is that we are culmination of our daily habits. If we want to change or optimize in area we need to take a look at what our habits are surrounding it. Again if we look at the area of weight loss. Most people don’t gain weight over a short period of time but rather do so over a period of months or years. The habits surrounding their eating and moving eventually led them to where they are. To make a change they must change their habits. This is the basis of our 12 month nutrition program that helped Victor lose 80 pounds. It is ultimately developing one new habit on top of another or stacking habits. Brian Johnson’s, “Optimize +1”, program is based off a similar principle. Each day Brian provides something a thought upon which you can take action on to help optimize your life. James Clear’s book, “Atomic Habits”, does a fantastic job of explaining how we develop habits and how we can choose and change habits to help us become our best.  He breaks down the process of developing habits into four simple steps:
1. Cue
2. Craving
3. Response
4. Reward

We will be working more diligently to provide future challenges as a group to help you develop the habits that will help you optimize your life. In our individual training program “Optimized Self Upgrade” we are able to fine tune these habits to meet more specifically with the client. Keep an eye out for our next challenge coming up in December.